During my late, unlamented sexless marriage, I perfected my current sexual obsession. I react much more like a 20 year old than someone 50-something
And I also interacted with men, but mostly women, who were similarly situated. Yes there really are men who won’t fuck their willing, even aggressively willing, often very attractive wives
As part of my “self-triage” I would work at rekindling these neglected women’s eroticism. This didn’t always entail direct sex. Many times it involves making them feel desired, developing their erotic fantasies watching, listening and encouraging them to explore themselves and revel in touch.
These women then made decisions based on sexual feelings long denied. I remember fondly beautiful smiles of women who took themselves from largely wooden reactions to triggering nearly violent orgasms with even their own brief simple touch
Happily or sadly, many of their relationships did not survive. They found lovers, new spouses or just determined that they did not have to accept sexual neglect in response to their sexual generosity
I like to think I was doing God’s work. But, was I? I have no regrets either way